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Love Wars

When a man notices a woman in a club, his imagination takes over. In most cases, it does not matter what she is wearing. For men, imagination creates anticipation and the hope of participation! This is the reason topless dancers are fully dressed when they perform their first stage dance.

When a woman notices a man, however, rarely are her initial thoughts sexual in nature. She is more likely to notice him because he looks like a man who can take care of himself physically, emotionally and financially. He looks like he can handle most of life's challenges.

When men notice a woman in a club or bar, two thoughts immediately cross their minds:

1- What she would look like naked;

2- What she would be like in bed.

When women notice a man, three thoughts usually cross their minds:

1- Does he look like he has a job?

2- Does he look like he has a good job?

3- Does he look like he can hold a good job long enough to benefit them?

Perhaps this explains why men feel they are being subjected to a 10-point physical examination and financial analysis when they ask a woman to dance.

Men look, women see. Contrary to popular belief, women are more visual than men. They are conditioned to see what they want to see, without staring or being obvious. Men admire; women inspect. A woman may decide she is interested in a man before she has caught his eye or gotten his attention.

Men notice contours and curves. Women notice form and structure. They also notice men's eyes, hands, teeth, smile, and class. Women who are more interested in a man's qualities notice men who are honest, outgoing, confident, and have style, intelligence, a sense of humour, and class. These men are perceived as likable, friendly and genuinely interested in others. They develop and maintain a wide range of personal contacts.

Women use their eyes to communicate interest in a man. Men, on the other hand, will usually avoid eye contact with a woman they are interested in.

Although women say they don't like a man to stare at their bodies, they literally melt when a man they might be interested in looks deeply into their eyes. The man who knows how to use his eyes to convey his interest in a woman will be more successful than the man who avoids looking directly into a woman's eyes. Exchanging eye contact is a critical stage of flirting and expressing interest. By not returning eye contact, you lose what could be a tremendous advantage.